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Glad I don’t have too many friends

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Reason why is because ,well starting with social media ,people using 😄 laughing emoji on comments and putting nasty horrible remarks.

It’s so immature and I don’t want to be friends with people who laugh at others like that ….they are not school kids they are full grown adults yet act like 10 year olds!!

I’ve not got time for nasty immature bullies  I don’t see the point of being nasty to strangers. Why do they do it I’m glad I don’t have many friends I’m happy with the one I’ve got and I trust him 100 %  of the nicest people I know.

I think most of my friends will be dogs I love dogs loyal faithful caring and judgmental I wish I could own a cavalier  king Charles spaniel again always happy  ,lovely dogs ,my favourite breed.

I can’t understand why adults want to be like 10 year olds bullying others and being nasty …..it’s so pointless. These days you get laughed at for options that people disagree with….rather than just disagreeing with you they would rather get nasty and bully you, I also get laughed for being against illegal drugs ,cannabis ,loud music …..but they laughed because they are clearly immature and don’t know right from wrong.

Socially for all humans social life has changed ,you see people with their heads in their phones out…and not paying attention to the world around them….before tech people would chat in streets over fence …basically everything with Alot more social in the olden days.

I use my phone certain times of the day ,for games ,shopping ect,or if TV is rubbish ,the rest of time is spent with my dog ,my art ,my dumbbells and miniverse….I have Alot of hobbies to keep me busy 😄reading….photography……and on and on.

If I ever meet new people who become friends and who I eventually trust it will be a bonus…it’s very hard to make friends these days….I only give my trust to people I’ve known for a long time and I feel 100 percent that they are loyal faithful trustworthy people🕊️♥️ it’s also saver that way.

Some men still treat women badly.

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I don’t usually write blogs like this because I’m not a feminist.

But on joining a Facebook group where women ask advice from men ,about relationships I noticed something.

I was asking advice on a matter ,and some of the comments were very immature and judgemental and disrespectful towards women.

Men in the group claim some of the women are bitter due to past experiences but it seems some of the men are bitter to judging by their comments.

Some treating women as if they should be submissive and do as they are told,which is one thing you do not do to me 😆,I was bullied over the years and had control freak teachers .

So it tuffened me up I’m a strong woman ,stronger than I realise and stand up for myself and speak my mind ….I’m like a mini Xena 🤣

I know at times our past heartaches rejections can make us bitter or angry ,but don’t go down that road it is negative and no good. The best thing to do is to clear your head and soul of negative emotions and carry on as best you can.

And if you want respect ,respect the other person and it swings both ways ,you cannot expect to be respected yourself if you do not show respect to others.

I think when these people make nasty , disrespectful comments it comes from their own insecurities and bad experiences so they protect it on others ,which in return causes more negativity….this does not help….over come the negative feelings and emotions clear your mind ,seek help seek help for god if your led that way ….it helps.

Nothing good comes from negative emotions and feelings ,as a catholic I have learnt that positive good feelings and emotions are better for you and people around you.

Cricket distroyed

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I saw an advert on TV last night for The Ashes…..kind of …it’s not The Ashes any more it’s The Men’s Ashes and The Women’s Ashes.The World has gone bonkers .

The Ashes is a traditional match England VS Australia ,the ashes are said to be of wickets from a match long past and has been a tradition for many years.

The Women’s Ashes is made up for the new world of WOKE and propaganda all over TV and sports .Women’s ashes they probably just burned some bras and said ..”right this the women’s ashes “no history behind it whatsoever .

Sadly all sport in our country now has propaganda and pushing this on to you that you HAVE to believe….but we do not want to and we do not have to only brainwashed people will fall for that.

Blog Of Grumpy Middle Aged woman

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Nearly 40 so getting older ,plus I am British ,and we are the best moaning and complainers in the world.Iam in the mood for moaning.

First sick of people setting fires in their gardens ,I like my window open and to have fresh air and coolness ,currently some selfish neighbour has a fire …..my eyes are stinging and ,I have breathing difficulties which I take nose spray for…..think of others before you set fires.!!!

Bouncing balls and trampolines horrid noises ,bouncing balls is a noise that ends up in your head like the ball is being bounced in your head ughhhh!!!

Noisey neighbours I don’t like your loud beating crappy music ,also turn your voices down the whole street does not need to hear you ,keep everything private in your own space not everyone else’s.

Cannabis smell ….just ban it completely it’s illegal it makes people Gaga and it smells like a toilet drain in a rubbish pile with rotten food on it .

Your reading this thinking I’d hate to live where she lives….your right haha….I just want peace and silence only noises I want to hear is nature maybe the odd car or plane pass by….but that it….and fresh lovely air with no horrid smells.

Single Women Don’t have to Have Kids!

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Recently on Twitter there has been some uproar about people saying “Single Women HAVE to have kids”.It’s rubbish no one has to do anything they don’t want to do.

As a single woman who does not want kids Id like to explain my reasons for not having or wanting kids…then we will get on to the nasty people on Twitter!

I’m 39 I have Asburgers ,I have a history of depression ,stress and anxiety.y9u cannot have kids with these I know for a fact I’d brake down in to a huge depression and probably end up I’ll in hospital.Also I have been single since I was born in 1983 .I don’t have much money to my name ,I can’t afford a house or anything expensive so I won’t be able to afford kids.Also If I did end up with a man he would have to be single with no kids from past relationships…..I really do not want any of that at all,I’d rather have a partner who has no kids no baggage no physco exs.just a nice clean slate.These reasons should make perfect sense to anyone with a brain!!

Now to the trolls and bullies ,I noticed some nasty people put comments that are totally sexist and so old fashioned cob webs were floating on them.There is no need for nasty comments you cannot bully women or force them into being with child …that would be classed as rape you stupied idiots!

Some men were saying women were put on earth to give birth….well not all of us you historically old old people from 1800s ,we have personal choice and reasons for not wanting kids ,plus no money and illness that make us unable to be good mum’s,and there are some bad parents out there …..DO NOT TELL ME there isn’t becous6 there is ….you seem to forget about that when making your sexist old comments!!

No human is perfect and some people who have kids who are on drugs ,have metal health and other issues not all but some have no idea how to treat there kids ,also there are abusive parents….so don’t make out having kids is happy ever after for everyone ….becouse it’s not …..some people really cannot cope with the stress.

It’s your choice ladies if you don’t want kids don’t have them don’t let these losers force you into things you don’t want to do!

Options matter

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Apparently according to “Women” on Facebook I’m not aloud a option on not liking Botox.

I’ve been against Botox since a teenager, I think it does not look nice and makes people look worse not better.

I believe in being natural and being happy with who you are as your born…that my opinion. We All have different opinions on things that’s how life is, if we all had the same option life would be pretty boring.

These days thought if people don’t like your opinion or views they decide to be nasty and troll and bully you,then say your nasty for having the option it’s self…..how does that even make sense.

Anyhow I blocked all the comments and did not reply as these people are not worth it.sadly in modern UK you are not allowed a option coz if people don’t agree with you or even disagree with you, they get nasty and troll and bully coz you don’t have the same option as them. Im not changing how I think and feel for a butch of

bully’s I’m sticking to what I believe in . If we all have the same option and agree on everything the world would be a very boring place….think about it

Lost Soul wondering aimlessly

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I was told by the spirits he was the one , in 2016 they kept telling me he is your soulmate.

I tried to ignore them because I didn’t want to get hurt or rejected.But I felt A special chemistry bound with him , he the only who has ever looked at me in a special way and shown interest.

Yet he rejects me 💔💔 I’m so confused ,I remember all the little things the signs, the time he saw me with a new hair cut his jaw dropped and he stuttered , Flower emojis he sent …he even sent flirty texts.

He held my hand in a special way when we had a deep talk together ,he removed my bag strap when it got stuck on a chair. He kept the paintings I made him ,he checked out my bum at the pub 😄.

But yet with out chemistry and me finding myself when I found him , my empty soul feeling warm and complete….he rejects me???

In 2016 I did my very very best to ignore the spirits as I didn’t want rejection and heart brake but they just wouldn’t have it….think one is my grandad and the other Rick Parfitt (spirit bit later not 2016 .2019 -now…..repenting I think ?

I have so much special little memory’s of him that matter so much he is the love of my life ,I try looking at other men but they are not him…he is so important I’ll never meet another perfect guy like him he is my soulmate ,If I can’t be with him I will love him still but I will die a virgin lonely with a dog coz he is the one.

I love our banter ,I miss our banter ,I love him calling me nicknames like misses and joking and flirting with me ,I love his hugs his personality his charm good looks ….love hurts ..

Iam now a soul wondering aimlessly confused and lost ,I will never love again no one can be him…from now on only lust and pureity….with me most likely pureity no one wants me 📿🙏 I will never get over him just always love him even when iam a old lonely lady with my faithful dog…that’s how I see my future …when my parents sadly pass in years ….I will have just me and a dog …..😭😭💔 .

You wonder about rejection , My life has been rejection it effects you emotionally , rejection is what I’ve had my whole life asking people out trying to make friends ect.All the time I end up lonely and feel scared of groups incase I’m judged…it’s not easy you also have no support just family support…..but when your family goes…. there is just you……this is one reason I wanted me right out of many….now what???2😭💔

I’m a lonely soul wondering aimlessly confused ……….

Don’t judge ALL MEN , Women are evil to.

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YES I’am a woman writing this ,and before you pounce on me for standing up for men , let me tell you my stories.
College in my 20s on period man dragged me to park to try have sex with me , when I did not want to.
Mid 20s African girl and her group of friends threaten to kill me just coz they didn’t like me.
30s bus stopped at wrong stop Asian men in groups hooted at me like sum sex object.

Ok with that out the way,Not all men are bad yes you get bad ones but that is life , you get bad women to , in that we are equal.
The woman in the photo she is Joanna Christine Dennehy a woman serial killer from The UK , she killed men for makeing sexural advances towards her . She is cold she is evil she is not safe to go near. She luckily is in jail for life.
My point is please don’t judge all men the same, women to can be just as bad.
Good and evil of both sexes are on earth not just one sex.
Women to have been sexural predictors some teachers , some like Mira Hindly .
I think heterosexual men get to much stick these days they are treated wrong .They haven’t even got proper men’s sports now  without some female commintator sticking her ore in .
I’am and always will stand up for the good men of this world and there rights. It’s awful the way they are treated , men need something of there own to feel masculine , sports club smoking whisky room , something , they should not have to share it with women. We have are own private women things so like men have there’s.
Just think before you judge not all men are bad , there are some really nice guys out there.

The Sex toys just Don’t do it for me

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Being a virgin for most of my life sadly , And 36 still no boyfriend ….got a nearly boyfriend he just needs to admit his feelings to me.

Anyhow Through out my life to get a feel of the sex I’ve never had I’ve been reading erotic book , had fantasy’s.

In my late teens early twenties I was a rock chick and had very erotic fantasy’s of Rock stars.

Richie sambora and John bon Jovi sometimes together

Paul Stanley Kiss and other member of kiss threesome or just Paul.

Rick Parfitt Francis Rossi threesome or Just Rick.

Then Had fantasys of James May from Top Gear to ,Snape from Harry Potter. Jack Sparrow and Jareth The Goblin King…phew.

I orgasamed in the fantasy s they were hot.

But my dildos all big 7inch ones seem to do nothing for me ( I use this size due to my very tight meow!!!

Thrust them fast and not one orgasam , don’t feel turned on by them.

I guess I’m only turned on by real men , especially the man I’m in love with I wish I could have him I need that closeness , love and hot sex.

Coved19 Quratine week5 …I think

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It will be April in one day , So far I’ve been entraining myself with erotic novels.

Makes me want sex even more , but only with the man I love. Sadly I’ve never experienced sex or a relationship as yet and I’m almost 40.

Its so depressing I want a orgasam I want to be pleased and dirty and I want please a man .

Let’s not go to my none existent frustrating love life …and the chase of the man I’m in love with ugh.

Apart from that I’ve been doing my art , going in garden for fresh air and using my exercise bike.

There’s only so much you can do right now.

I’ve never experienced anything like this , the world completely shut down , how long will we stay sane who knows.

The clocks went forward Saturday …..but I got it wrong thought it was Sunday. So woke up late on Sunday and today still jetlagged.

Trying to get used to longer days and clocks forward , not there yet as it was nearly 10am when I woke up.

Erm think that’s it.