Category: negativity

Apparently you’re weird of your waiting outside the loo .

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Have to get this off my chest as it’s bothering me.

Today after my dentist appointment I felt I needed the loo,so went downstairs and saw it was engaged,so I waited outside for use.

Which I’ve thought since I was little was the normal polite thing to do and what people have been doing for years.

Anyway I sat down next to Dad in waiting after the loo ,and heard the secretary whispering to the other secretary that “the girl was waiting outside the loo …I don’t know if it is an autism thing”.

This made me feel like a right weirdo ,I also felt judged and offended and upset by it….something that people do every day…yet when I do it it’s weird?!!

Sadly this is why I guard myself …from people because I get judged so much ..I only let in my most trusted close people which is very few …count on one hand my most trusted people.

So in a way I’m avoidant with certain people who I don’t know too well ,because I don’t trust them …it takes Alot to earn my trust …being avoidant  with strangers and people I don’t know I protect myself from being hurt….sadly this is with most I just seem to get judged and bullied Alot in myself ….ask why??

I’m not mean not nasty not perfect ….why be mean to me what have I done???

As a teen in late 90s

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Due to my autism and the fact I got bullied no matter what school I was put in

I went to Ewing School Didsbury Manchester I was there 1996 -1999 I think.

The whole time I was at this school I saw a psychiatrist and felt upset.

1st story I’m telling you was one I recently told my friend ,School trip to Brittany France when I was age 13 or 14.It was more like a nightmare I shared a cabin in the ferry ⛴️ with two female teachers .

Before going to sleep I remember seeing the teachers ice cold eyes staring at me so I closed my eyes .

When we reached where we were staying it was an old rundown farmhouse in the middle of the countryside, with no street lights.

There were no carpets in one game room which teachers said only boys could use ….I think there was a living room but teachers said that was just for them…so we only had a garden and a table by a window.we also was not allowed in the kitchen.

We were not fed much . sandwich on french baguette and not much drink ..I ended up buying a large bag of crossettes and four large bottles of water to keep me going.

I remember the beach they took us to was a nudest beach ….think we were the only ones with clothes on ..

At my age it was shocking!!

At the end of the trip we were stuck at the ferry port due to French farmers protesting,so we had to sleep in a cold school gym on gym Matt’s and then catch the ferry the next day.

Later in my years at the school the headmistress Mrs Darbyshire really had it in for me ..

She had a go at me for small normal teenage things …and eventually she made sure the other teachers treated me badly too .

I was extremely depressed due to all of this ,my teens were destroyed by that school and it was that bad .

By the 1st year of college year 2000 still recovering from the school I ended up having anorexia for around a year.

And a further two break downs most recent was at age 23-24.

I feel I can write this blog about it now as I’am now 42 and it’s so far in the past that it cannot hurt me anymore ….I’m finally free of it…

Bible words help me to because I know I’ve suffered Alot but in a way it’s a post that if you suffer in your life you’re welcome to heaven because it’s almost like the suffering Jesus went through.

Glad I don’t have too many friends

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Reason why is because ,well starting with social media ,people using 😄 laughing emoji on comments and putting nasty horrible remarks.

It’s so immature and I don’t want to be friends with people who laugh at others like that ….they are not school kids they are full grown adults yet act like 10 year olds!!

I’ve not got time for nasty immature bullies  I don’t see the point of being nasty to strangers. Why do they do it I’m glad I don’t have many friends I’m happy with the one I’ve got and I trust him 100 %  of the nicest people I know.

I think most of my friends will be dogs I love dogs loyal faithful caring and judgmental I wish I could own a cavalier  king Charles spaniel again always happy  ,lovely dogs ,my favourite breed.

I can’t understand why adults want to be like 10 year olds bullying others and being nasty …..it’s so pointless. These days you get laughed at for options that people disagree with….rather than just disagreeing with you they would rather get nasty and bully you, I also get laughed for being against illegal drugs ,cannabis ,loud music …..but they laughed because they are clearly immature and don’t know right from wrong.

Socially for all humans social life has changed ,you see people with their heads in their phones out…and not paying attention to the world around them….before tech people would chat in streets over fence …basically everything with Alot more social in the olden days.

I use my phone certain times of the day ,for games ,shopping ect,or if TV is rubbish ,the rest of time is spent with my dog ,my art ,my dumbbells and miniverse….I have Alot of hobbies to keep me busy 😄reading….photography……and on and on.

If I ever meet new people who become friends and who I eventually trust it will be a bonus…it’s very hard to make friends these days….I only give my trust to people I’ve known for a long time and I feel 100 percent that they are loyal faithful trustworthy people🕊️♥️ it’s also saver that way.

Some men still treat women badly.

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I don’t usually write blogs like this because I’m not a feminist.

But on joining a Facebook group where women ask advice from men ,about relationships I noticed something.

I was asking advice on a matter ,and some of the comments were very immature and judgemental and disrespectful towards women.

Men in the group claim some of the women are bitter due to past experiences but it seems some of the men are bitter to judging by their comments.

Some treating women as if they should be submissive and do as they are told,which is one thing you do not do to me 😆,I was bullied over the years and had control freak teachers .

So it tuffened me up I’m a strong woman ,stronger than I realise and stand up for myself and speak my mind ….I’m like a mini Xena 🤣

I know at times our past heartaches rejections can make us bitter or angry ,but don’t go down that road it is negative and no good. The best thing to do is to clear your head and soul of negative emotions and carry on as best you can.

And if you want respect ,respect the other person and it swings both ways ,you cannot expect to be respected yourself if you do not show respect to others.

I think when these people make nasty , disrespectful comments it comes from their own insecurities and bad experiences so they protect it on others ,which in return causes more negativity….this does not help….over come the negative feelings and emotions clear your mind ,seek help seek help for god if your led that way ….it helps.

Nothing good comes from negative emotions and feelings ,as a catholic I have learnt that positive good feelings and emotions are better for you and people around you.

Sometimes I just want to live on a Island

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How the UK is now being destroyed by illegal immigrants and messing up our culture ,our religion and beliefs.

It is depressing and on social media seeing big companies  brands ect saying Eid Mubarak just hurts so much.

We are a Christian country and some stupid people stand up for Muslims/Islam clearly they’ve forgotten 9/11,…7/7…Lee Rigby ,3 Southport girls ,London bridge ,Spanish train bomb ,France ,Amsterdam all caused by Muslim terrorist…they are evil and not peaceful they kill Christians gays they kill none believers they treat women like dirt…..change your minds now!!!!

It’s getting so bad that sometimes I wish I could be away from it all on a peaceful island ,just far away from politics ,woke ,immigrants and the mess the UK is in ,it is very depressing….sadly I have suffered from depression most of my life .

So this does not help seeing the country go like this hurts me sickened me and brakes my heart I feel like screaming and crying sometimes ,just want it  be made better or for me to move away far away away from it all.

FaceBook is getting ridiculous

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Recently I shared a post that came up on my Facebook feed from Batman The Movie ,the 1960s one.

All the posts were two photos from the movie ,one with batman with a shark hanging off him ,and some writing a person out saying how camp and corny the movie was.

So I shared it seeing the humour as I’ve seen the movie and love the corny 60s batman.

Anyhow Facebook messaged me saying they have removed the post for being offensive and inappropriate……..whatttttttt!!!!! To quote Francis Rossi …

There was nothing offensive or inappropriate  about it….they delete that but they won’t delete things like men degraded women’s private parts which have been going on since forever….btw only idiotic immature men say things like that…not real men.

They won’t delete anything that truly is upsetting like the hundreds of things going wrong with the UK like people being offended by our flag….don’t like don’t live here!!! I’ll plaster the house in union jacks and St George’s if I have to you who do not like it can go to your own country in case you haven’t noticed THIS IS GREAT BRITAIN…GUESS WHAT OUR FLAG IS!!!!!.

sorry I’m going off on one there’s only so much you can take living here the country has been destroyed .

Anyway you’re not allowed to say anything on Facebook they get offended by everything  you can say ,and ,the ,it..that’s not offensive…..or is it. Apparently 60s Batman is offensive…….bit its not at all it’s a funny great movie,

We need the 70s and 80s back you had more freedom then and nobody got offended ,mThe modernorld is clearly mad and insane

Try to help and people just say negative things.

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I recently joined an app called Neighbours  and left the app.

It’s an app where you’re meant to meet local people and help local people,so I tried to help, a Dead cat under was in my local park so I posted about it.

And people left negative comments like why didn’t you check it was breathing or take a photo.

You try doing that when you’ve got a dog who does not like cats in one hand on a lead ,plus touching dead animals you can catch stuff off them. The best thing to do is leave it be.

I left because I’m sick of the negativity of people it’s all you hear these days ,you try your best to be kind ,caring and in return you get slapped in the face .

Problem with Woke people is they can’t agree to disagree they are selfish ,they think the world owes them,they won’t say when they are wrong.Ill be glad when woke is over bring back caring thoughtful people who stuck together and agreed to disagree.

We are human we are not perfect we all have flaws and faults ,I know I have imperfections and get things wrong because that’s part of life but try and be positive and supportive because if you are negative it brings people down and negatives cause other negatives.

As Yoda said anger leads to hate and hate leads to suffering……he said something like that.

Single Women Don’t have to Have Kids!

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Recently on Twitter there has been some uproar about people saying “Single Women HAVE to have kids”.It’s rubbish no one has to do anything they don’t want to do.

As a single woman who does not want kids Id like to explain my reasons for not having or wanting kids…then we will get on to the nasty people on Twitter!

I’m 39 I have Asburgers ,I have a history of depression ,stress and anxiety.y9u cannot have kids with these I know for a fact I’d brake down in to a huge depression and probably end up I’ll in hospital.Also I have been single since I was born in 1983 .I don’t have much money to my name ,I can’t afford a house or anything expensive so I won’t be able to afford kids.Also If I did end up with a man he would have to be single with no kids from past relationships…..I really do not want any of that at all,I’d rather have a partner who has no kids no baggage no physco exs.just a nice clean slate.These reasons should make perfect sense to anyone with a brain!!

Now to the trolls and bullies ,I noticed some nasty people put comments that are totally sexist and so old fashioned cob webs were floating on them.There is no need for nasty comments you cannot bully women or force them into being with child …that would be classed as rape you stupied idiots!

Some men were saying women were put on earth to give birth….well not all of us you historically old old people from 1800s ,we have personal choice and reasons for not wanting kids ,plus no money and illness that make us unable to be good mum’s,and there are some bad parents out there …..DO NOT TELL ME there isn’t becous6 there is ….you seem to forget about that when making your sexist old comments!!

No human is perfect and some people who have kids who are on drugs ,have metal health and other issues not all but some have no idea how to treat there kids ,also there are abusive parents….so don’t make out having kids is happy ever after for everyone ….becouse it’s not …..some people really cannot cope with the stress.

It’s your choice ladies if you don’t want kids don’t have them don’t let these losers force you into things you don’t want to do!

I’am not mentally Ill

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I think some people still have yet to understand what having ADHD, Asburgers ,and Autism is.

A woman in a discussion I was having claimed it was a mental illness ….now I’m not easly offended, but this really shook me up.

I’am not I’ll with my Asburgers it does not make me sick ,I’am not metal I do not need a straight jacket or to be locked away. Some people still in this day and age do not understand that having “Special Needs ” is not a Illness it is part of who we are as a person

I’am deeply offended to be labeled as mentally ill because I was born unique ,my mum and dad are happy that I was born this way .

I have never broken the law , I’ve never taken drugs and never slept around or got in with the wrong people , I’ve always been good …..ok maybe not a little kid was still learning ….but I’ve not done anything that would class me “mentally Ill”.

Its not just me this would upset but hundreds of others like me , we are each unique with different capabilities as normal as any other human on earth ….but we are not I’ll and we are not suffering !!!!

I’m artistic I spend my time creating art , doing exercises , I’am religious and spiritual and have a caring heart and alot of compassion and emotions,my parents are proud of me and are happy with me just as I’am.

Please If someone says they have any of the above ,do not judge them do not talk down to them , do not treat them as if they are slow and do not say they are mentally Ill, as it is offensive and upsetting.

Options matter

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Apparently according to “Women” on Facebook I’m not aloud a option on not liking Botox.

I’ve been against Botox since a teenager, I think it does not look nice and makes people look worse not better.

I believe in being natural and being happy with who you are as your born…that my opinion. We All have different opinions on things that’s how life is, if we all had the same option life would be pretty boring.

These days thought if people don’t like your opinion or views they decide to be nasty and troll and bully you,then say your nasty for having the option it’s self…..how does that even make sense.

Anyhow I blocked all the comments and did not reply as these people are not worth it.sadly in modern UK you are not allowed a option coz if people don’t agree with you or even disagree with you, they get nasty and troll and bully coz you don’t have the same option as them. Im not changing how I think and feel for a butch of

bully’s I’m sticking to what I believe in . If we all have the same option and agree on everything the world would be a very boring place….think about it