Category: social

Glad I don’t have too many friends

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Reason why is because ,well starting with social media ,people using 😄 laughing emoji on comments and putting nasty horrible remarks.

It’s so immature and I don’t want to be friends with people who laugh at others like that ….they are not school kids they are full grown adults yet act like 10 year olds!!

I’ve not got time for nasty immature bullies  I don’t see the point of being nasty to strangers. Why do they do it I’m glad I don’t have many friends I’m happy with the one I’ve got and I trust him 100 %  of the nicest people I know.

I think most of my friends will be dogs I love dogs loyal faithful caring and judgmental I wish I could own a cavalier  king Charles spaniel again always happy  ,lovely dogs ,my favourite breed.

I can’t understand why adults want to be like 10 year olds bullying others and being nasty …..it’s so pointless. These days you get laughed at for options that people disagree with….rather than just disagreeing with you they would rather get nasty and bully you, I also get laughed for being against illegal drugs ,cannabis ,loud music …..but they laughed because they are clearly immature and don’t know right from wrong.

Socially for all humans social life has changed ,you see people with their heads in their phones out…and not paying attention to the world around them….before tech people would chat in streets over fence …basically everything with Alot more social in the olden days.

I use my phone certain times of the day ,for games ,shopping ect,or if TV is rubbish ,the rest of time is spent with my dog ,my art ,my dumbbells and miniverse….I have Alot of hobbies to keep me busy 😄reading….photography……and on and on.

If I ever meet new people who become friends and who I eventually trust it will be a bonus…it’s very hard to make friends these days….I only give my trust to people I’ve known for a long time and I feel 100 percent that they are loyal faithful trustworthy people🕊️♥️ it’s also saver that way.

Some men still treat women badly.

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I don’t usually write blogs like this because I’m not a feminist.

But on joining a Facebook group where women ask advice from men ,about relationships I noticed something.

I was asking advice on a matter ,and some of the comments were very immature and judgemental and disrespectful towards women.

Men in the group claim some of the women are bitter due to past experiences but it seems some of the men are bitter to judging by their comments.

Some treating women as if they should be submissive and do as they are told,which is one thing you do not do to me 😆,I was bullied over the years and had control freak teachers .

So it tuffened me up I’m a strong woman ,stronger than I realise and stand up for myself and speak my mind ….I’m like a mini Xena 🤣

I know at times our past heartaches rejections can make us bitter or angry ,but don’t go down that road it is negative and no good. The best thing to do is to clear your head and soul of negative emotions and carry on as best you can.

And if you want respect ,respect the other person and it swings both ways ,you cannot expect to be respected yourself if you do not show respect to others.

I think when these people make nasty , disrespectful comments it comes from their own insecurities and bad experiences so they protect it on others ,which in return causes more negativity….this does not help….over come the negative feelings and emotions clear your mind ,seek help seek help for god if your led that way ….it helps.

Nothing good comes from negative emotions and feelings ,as a catholic I have learnt that positive good feelings and emotions are better for you and people around you.

Loners who did not choose it

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Last night I had one of my deep thinking moments ,as sometimes happens before I go to sleep.I was thinking about loners .

There are two types I know of Negative and positive , negative ones usually  become worse than the ones who bullied them and sometimes become murders.

Positive ones don’t take it out on people ,they stay on the side of love no matter what,but none of us chose this path.I find myself thinking at night WHY??

I have tried socialising always ok as a child and early teens I was shy and it was more difficult,but as I got older I got more confidence ,spoke out more and braved it all,I even stood up to be bullies.

A couple of bullies I asked why don’t you like me.?

They answered. “because you’re a loser” “Because you don’t go on a break “( because they never say with me!!)

Some side” just because?”

It’s hard finding a social group at the moment but there seems to be lots of them in Thornton cleveleys If summers are noisy this year my parents and I may retire there.

I also know I’m not the only one I know there are others like me with the same issues ,thinking at night why?we try to be nice friendly and good manners so it’s not us it’s them.

I’m 41 now and still no solid group of friends I have one friend who texts I’ve known him for almost 10 years now.

I’m not shy anymore I’m confident and speak my mind but also look out for people and stay caring and thoughts.

Despite all the nasty bad people I will always follow my heart and be carrying and loving and always be me.

I will not let it turn me into a nasty evil bully that’s the weak way of dealing with it.

As for the WHy? I cannot answer that one yet still figuring it out ,maybe god’s saving us for something , honestly I don’t know. But if you’re a loner who has not chosen to be don’t turn to the dark side stay strong loving and caring ,love is stronger than hate.

FaceBook is getting ridiculous

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Recently I shared a post that came up on my Facebook feed from Batman The Movie ,the 1960s one.

All the posts were two photos from the movie ,one with batman with a shark hanging off him ,and some writing a person out saying how camp and corny the movie was.

So I shared it seeing the humour as I’ve seen the movie and love the corny 60s batman.

Anyhow Facebook messaged me saying they have removed the post for being offensive and inappropriate……..whatttttttt!!!!! To quote Francis Rossi …

There was nothing offensive or inappropriate  about it….they delete that but they won’t delete things like men degraded women’s private parts which have been going on since forever….btw only idiotic immature men say things like that…not real men.

They won’t delete anything that truly is upsetting like the hundreds of things going wrong with the UK like people being offended by our flag….don’t like don’t live here!!! I’ll plaster the house in union jacks and St George’s if I have to you who do not like it can go to your own country in case you haven’t noticed THIS IS GREAT BRITAIN…GUESS WHAT OUR FLAG IS!!!!!.

sorry I’m going off on one there’s only so much you can take living here the country has been destroyed .

Anyway you’re not allowed to say anything on Facebook they get offended by everything  you can say ,and ,the ,it..that’s not offensive…..or is it. Apparently 60s Batman is offensive…….bit its not at all it’s a funny great movie,

We need the 70s and 80s back you had more freedom then and nobody got offended ,mThe modernorld is clearly mad and insane

Try to help and people just say negative things.

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I recently joined an app called Neighbours  and left the app.

It’s an app where you’re meant to meet local people and help local people,so I tried to help, a Dead cat under was in my local park so I posted about it.

And people left negative comments like why didn’t you check it was breathing or take a photo.

You try doing that when you’ve got a dog who does not like cats in one hand on a lead ,plus touching dead animals you can catch stuff off them. The best thing to do is leave it be.

I left because I’m sick of the negativity of people it’s all you hear these days ,you try your best to be kind ,caring and in return you get slapped in the face .

Problem with Woke people is they can’t agree to disagree they are selfish ,they think the world owes them,they won’t say when they are wrong.Ill be glad when woke is over bring back caring thoughtful people who stuck together and agreed to disagree.

We are human we are not perfect we all have flaws and faults ,I know I have imperfections and get things wrong because that’s part of life but try and be positive and supportive because if you are negative it brings people down and negatives cause other negatives.

As Yoda said anger leads to hate and hate leads to suffering……he said something like that.

Stop cannabis now I’m fed up of it 😭😭😭

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Dear Sir

I’am a 38 year old who has Asburgers and allgy issues which cause breathing difficulty at times.
I’m asking begging please stop people smoking cannabis and selling in Manchester I live in the northern moor with my mum and dad and it’s driving us insane and effecting us.
Tonight I have had no sleep because a selfish neighbour is smoking cannabis the smell its awful . I’d like to breathe fresh air…not drugs through my window.please get police on Northern moor stopping the drug deals ,they are happing on motorcycle and in vans all the time ,stop people smoking this drug it effects my health and my parents ,we hate the smell and effect it has ,all we want is fresh air and sleep.
I feel it’s bad in Northern Moor most people in this area smoke it and deal it ,it’s so awful please please help get rid of it and it’s awful smell put a stop to this evil drug please,for us people who just want fresh air and peace please I’m asking you .
I don’t know what else to say other then help.

Need Art Group back In my life 😭

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Since stupid COVID my art group closed ,and with that my social life and life as I knew it went back to how it was before art group.

At Art group every Tuesday it was the highlight of my week I got to socialize,meet people and have a laugh and banter I miss everyone so much.We had such good times ,I was so happy.

Over the COVID years to stay happy I keep my sad feelings bottled up that includes missing art group and missing my special friend who texts me alot …but we need to start meeting in person again😭💔.I try to stay positive and happy as that is how I’d rather be ad life’s too short.

But every now and again I need to cry and think about these things and last night I did that,I have always found making friends hard and also my love life has always been at 0 ,Nearing 40 it gets to me worse than ever I’ve missed out on so.

In this modern era with WOKE people it’s so much harder to make friends as people get offended by everything ,you’re constantly walking on egg shells because you can’t say anything.

I’m from old school as you have seen in my blogs , I believe freedom of speech , expressing and discussing options in an adult mature way Woke people don’t do this if they don’t like your opinion they call you names get nasty and mean…very childish.

I’m on the search for a new social group in case my much loved art group does not start up again, it’s a hard search ….but important as I need a decent social life and to enjoy life and have good times because we only get one chance at life.

much

I’am not mentally Ill

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I think some people still have yet to understand what having ADHD, Asburgers ,and Autism is.

A woman in a discussion I was having claimed it was a mental illness ….now I’m not easly offended, but this really shook me up.

I’am not I’ll with my Asburgers it does not make me sick ,I’am not metal I do not need a straight jacket or to be locked away. Some people still in this day and age do not understand that having “Special Needs ” is not a Illness it is part of who we are as a person

I’am deeply offended to be labeled as mentally ill because I was born unique ,my mum and dad are happy that I was born this way .

I have never broken the law , I’ve never taken drugs and never slept around or got in with the wrong people , I’ve always been good …..ok maybe not a little kid was still learning ….but I’ve not done anything that would class me “mentally Ill”.

Its not just me this would upset but hundreds of others like me , we are each unique with different capabilities as normal as any other human on earth ….but we are not I’ll and we are not suffering !!!!

I’m artistic I spend my time creating art , doing exercises , I’am religious and spiritual and have a caring heart and alot of compassion and emotions,my parents are proud of me and are happy with me just as I’am.

Please If someone says they have any of the above ,do not judge them do not talk down to them , do not treat them as if they are slow and do not say they are mentally Ill, as it is offensive and upsetting.

Options matter

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Apparently according to “Women” on Facebook I’m not aloud a option on not liking Botox.

I’ve been against Botox since a teenager, I think it does not look nice and makes people look worse not better.

I believe in being natural and being happy with who you are as your born…that my opinion. We All have different opinions on things that’s how life is, if we all had the same option life would be pretty boring.

These days thought if people don’t like your opinion or views they decide to be nasty and troll and bully you,then say your nasty for having the option it’s self…..how does that even make sense.

Anyhow I blocked all the comments and did not reply as these people are not worth it.sadly in modern UK you are not allowed a option coz if people don’t agree with you or even disagree with you, they get nasty and troll and bully coz you don’t have the same option as them. Im not changing how I think and feel for a butch of

bully’s I’m sticking to what I believe in . If we all have the same option and agree on everything the world would be a very boring place….think about it